Yes, there are only two basic categories with regard to the relationship between the genders in the scriptures. Is our sexuality consistent with the image of Christ and his church? It flows with life-giving grace. No doubt things could be worse just read 1 Corinthians 5:11. This sounds like a wonderfully biblical book Aimee. That's a Satanic lie, of course, but an easy one to get trapped by if we don't see a distinction. Shocking though this may seem, Scripture expressly states that God created sex to serve as a living portrait of the life-changing spiritual union that believers have with God through Christ. So gin up your moral courage and press on.
Any approach to sexual standards that views sex as an evil to be avoided, rather than a gift to be celebrated, misses the mark and fails to capture the scriptural ideal. Considering the sex-crazed, hook-up based culture we live in--not to mention the ever-climbing divorce rate--it's clear that we need a better understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. This begs the question: are our kids seeking out partners with this disciple-making motive in mind? And as a mother, I find myself wanting to roll my eyes again. At which time, the marriage bed being what our merciful God has left us of Eden, wherein a man and his wife can still be naked and not ashamed, the Lord intends a covenant couple to begin the journey of freely discovering and fully loving each other as they grow together first in Christ. The result may just be a simpler, more God-honoring approach to dating than you thought possible. It is wrought with pitfalls and moral hazards that threaten destruction and death, both literally and spiritually. He was obviously not tied to a need for sexual reproduction in order to propagate the species.
But all will be challenged and blessed by their wise contributions to this vitally important issue. That is why I wish they would have maybe mentioned some of the gifts our sexuality offers to our neighbor, and family members that are different expressions than what our spouse receives. Well, first of all, what the heck is dating? My only short critique is that sexuality is mainly defined in this book as sexual activity, and while I agree that sex itself is a type that will be ultimately fulfilled in our consummated union with Christ, I do not believe that we surrender our sexuality in the new heavens and the new earth. Gerald lives in Oak Park, Illinois, with his wife, Jill, and their four children. But God has not been as silent on this issue, as many might think. In other words, sex and relationships are all about the gospel. Sex has become casual, devoid of intimacy; it no longer requires even a pretense of ongoing commitment.
What can a dating couple do that mere friends cannot? We teach purity, but what does that mean? God longs for this as well, and he promises a good return for your investment of faith. Not an add on after we've done that ourselves. In fact, to understand one is to make sense of the other. Husbands don't sanctify their wives, nor are they atoning sacrifices. Hiestand and Thomas do not leave us to subjectively try to figure this out, they give us clear, biblical categories for God-ordained relationships, and what our boundaries should be within them.
A big thanks to Gerald and Jay for helping us think sanely through this head-scratching cultural shift from a realistic and theologically astute perspective. Could this be used to justify premarital sex? Third, we know many of you come to this book with past regrets. This cutting-edge treatment of the rapidly changing scene is a must read for parents, students, counselors, and pastors. One of my biggest praises is how deeply theological it is. If you are single or care about someone who is, you really should read this book.
First, this book does not intend to be a comprehensive book on all things dating. This is exactly what Christians need to counteract the worldly attitudes and actions so prevalent in our churches today. Nowhere in Scripture are we given a special license for sexual activity of any kind outside of marriage. He lays out the principles of family and neighbor so children can grow up with a healthy and biblical view of sex and members of the opposite gender without the paranoia. Young adults who wish to follow Jesus wholeheartedly are faced daily with an onslaught of sexual temptation.
He is the author of a number of scholarly papers and is currently a PhD candidate at the University of Kent in Canterbury, England. While the authors value singlehood in a way that has not been written about as often in these kind of books, I would have liked to see them talk about how our sexuality is not only for our spouse. Yet the fact that you have this book in your hands is an indication that you long to see your life track along the path God has ordained. Considering the pervasive immorality and high divorce rate of our contemporary Christian culture, we evidently need a biblically based, theologically compelling, practical understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Sex is about the gospel, just like every other thing in life. Where should the lines be drawn? We remember learning in science class about the asexual reproduction of single-celled organisms and being grateful that God had chosen a different method of reproduction for humans.
Not to be a picker of nits as opposed to a nitpicker , but I wonder if it's more helpfully precise to separate out gender from sexual expression. Here, in brief space, is clear and closely reasoned advice that is über-biblical and Christ-centered. This looks like an excellent resource -- I've placed it on my Amazon. In two of these categories sexual relations are forbidden, and in one it is commanded. How can I have a legit dating relationship? The road is long—longer than when previous generations had to travel it.
It is a body language that speaks an awareness of the gift and power of our gender. But the relentless battering of the promiscuity ram against the gates of Christian virtue can exhaust even devout singles. This society is rigged from the ground up to fight and thwart God's designs, with what is called the church leading the way. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purity and relationships—a view that accounts for the biblical evidence and helps us guard against unnecessary heartache. For example, they let us know which features and sections are most popular.