Helen Fisher: Well, two things. Actually, I think romance is expanding due to something that I call slow love. To date, more than 49 million Americans have given digital dating a try and the companies facilitating these matches are raking in billions. Daniel Jones: Well, I've heard that if a man has a dog in the picture, that's a huge plus, because it's -- again, it shows commitment and love, and that sort of thing. Our quality assurance processes may mean the data changes from time to time.
But you should not be summoning romance through an app. John Donvan: So, we're all suckers you're saying. Humans can now conveniently order their groceries online. John Donvan: -- set this table this way. Tom Jacques: So first of all, I'd like to -- like to see those messages.
They're looking at many, many incidents of nasty behavior, and they're saying that's not romantic, therefore they win. Now all you need to do is believe it. It's a different way of meeting people. So, you -- I want to let Manoush -- Manoush Zomorodi: I think that's -- John Donvan: -- take that on. For example, they may claim to have a severely ill family member who requires immediate medical attention such as an expensive operation, or they may claim financial hardship due to an unfortunate run of bad luck such as a failed business or mugging in the street.
My fellow sociologists say that they're changing our norms, making us ruder, and flakier, and more self-involved. Also, going to the level of brain chemistry that the brain circuitry of romantic love is too deeply etched in our brains to be dislodged by one generation of dating apps. Do you want to meet my golden retriever? But are dating apps really designed to promote long-lasting romance? And because of that, I ask you to vote no on the motion. That's the feeling that we try to recapture when we go on vacation, or when we go on a date, or when we make a meal for our special person. I can't stand in a bar and wait for people to fill -- you know, walk by.
Your brain is something else -- there's something else going on with you as a whole person. You ended up not keeping that commitment ultimately, or maybe she didn't, but you committed. Take the survey with a grain of salt. The brain is not well built to choose between hundreds if not thousands of alternatives. And I didn't know what places to go. And I think it's harder -- part of that is harder these days because we have these ways of sheltering ourselves and being meeker about how we ask someone out.
Daniel Jones: -- and he says it before sex. One of the most prominent features of the algorithms are that when you go online, you see people who are online with you too. The side arguing against the motion went up 29 percentage points. Or you don't -- you sense there's no chemistry. But that doesn't mean that the typical experience isn't a good one.
You know, it's literally what I've spent the last eight years of my life thinking about every single day. She came back this last weekend and spent two nights with me. Daniel Jones: I mean, well, it's appropriate that the subject tonight is online dating, because the -- more than anything, I see this infusion of technology into relationships as -- as changing things more than anything else. And we're very pleased to have so many people in this audience tonight who bought tickets. Manoush Zomorodi: Yeah, I would say, if they have not ignited the default mode in their brain and allowed their minds to wander towards brilliance, it's a little late, so.
You can use image search services such as or. Can you clap if you're single? Going great, just gearing up for a big meeting this week. So, I think that one of the themes that I'm picking up on here is that there's this idea that part of romance is maybe like figuring out if another person is interested in you. If dating apps have killed romance, where's the body? And the question that's sort of circling everyone's mind, it's an impossible question to answer. Today, people go into their phones, and they perceive a world of limitless dating choices. Let's go to the Oxford English dictionary, a great source for this.
Again, over 40 percent of relationships today and over a third of marriages are due to dating apps. If you are, you know, a 45-year-old man who's never been married, people think there is a deeper problem there. Daniel Jones: And for a woman, no dog and looking up. Daniel Jones: -- when it comes to love. And right now -- right now, one in five people in this country are -- say that they are online during all of their waking hours, essentially. I don't consider myself an incredibly brave person -- John Donvan: Ah.