We started our relationship with truth in our family. Or I would say it when I meant it, but beat myself up over saying it drunk. I have never related to an article this much. He laughed and apologized right after, he was clearly shitfaced, but it was super uncomfortable. I am leaving a comment only to say thank you for sharing your stories. Then we kissed and kept doing it and after a month I invited him to my place.
She's very in touch with her emotions — thanks in part to whiskey — especially after she has one too many whiskey shooters and lets you know how she really feels. I would say it and then in the morning, I realize I was just wasted and didn't mean it and then I would have to tell the poor girl that I was just a drunken idiot. It almost cost him his life one year ago this month. Feeling good about personal accomplishments and prideful goals is strong emotional medicine for the alcoholic working on their recovery. We are totally dependent and that is how you like it. He started hating me as much as I hated myself,eventually leading to his cutting words of how useless I was. If you think you might be a serial dater of alcoholics then it is important to get counseling or therapy.
That's why I love our forum, because if you are short of ideas other members may come up with some brilliant suggestions to help out here! Yeah, quite a change in the women today unfortunately compared to the past which is why our family members were very blessed and lucky meeting one another back then. Sometimes you have to love enough to let go. Even together 8 years, got married last year. Seems like I have held on with the hope he will change, listen to me, write me one love letter, or take me anywhere because it is where I want to go without throwing a temper tantrum. Remember, it's not cheating on your part because he is married.
Therefore, we are the ones who need to start making changes to protect ourselves from the negative impact of this disease. I just dont know what else to do. I've read the article and some comments. We have had multiple arguments about his drinking, and he knows how I feel. I developed feelings for him but I haven't confronted him yet about what I know.
We have been so careful, even while i was living in the house. In the begining it was just her and myself then me, her and the girls. We have a 12 year old son who is in bed most of the time when my husband gets home. He used to throw whatever I cook lovingly, if I only ask him to switch off the light in the room. He sees me at two breaks at work, 30 mins once a week in the morning and that's it. He has physically abused me before and he constantly emotionally abuses me.
There are issues to seriously consider if you think that this man may be the one. But now I meant absolutely nothing to him and this was my fault. I truly never know if he is taking some type of pill or is saving drinking a bottle of liquor for when I go to sleep. But i want to stay in this relationship. I wont say that but I will say that it rapidly takes any feelings of love out of the equation until you absolutely cannot stand the person. He drinks every day, gets drunk and becomes extremely mean. I met my husband when we were both young drinkers and continued for many years.
I feel sorry for him when he is sober but when he is drunk I hate him. His wife is jealous of me and he's had feelings for me for a long time. Advising that to me sounds like someone trying to sabotage other ppls good relationships. So, if it is not wrong to fall in love, loving a married man is also no wrong. I try to go out and about with friends and family, as its good to have a network of sincere folk to turn to. But I just ignored this suspicious feeling.
I met B after loss of a mutual friend. Long story short, has anyone else dealt with anything similar to this? I came here to begin a journey of learning how to take care of myself. I am always wondering his true feelings for his wife even though they are separated. She does not know that I am now aware that she was doing Cocaine, Ecstasy, etc. We have been together for 7 years. I've been there with my own loved one and it's not a comfortable place to be. Among the types of help available are: Alcoholics Anonymous, Rational Recovery, Detox and additional treatment programs and now there is even medication that, after recovery, can remove the impulse or craving to drink.
Then, he dumps her, finds another woman to sleep with before getting rid of her when she gets tired of being a doormat. I was unpleasant to be around and more like a parent than a wife. My mom says he has some problems and is an abuser. I have never faced or been involved with an alcoholic. An open mind and positive attitude is a good place for the recovering alcoholic to start and it is imperative for them to deal with the painful issues that might have brought them to their addiction in the first place. He pays for a young gentleman to be at my beck and call for functions that include my friends and family, including his daughter, my bff.
Over time I became sick and unreasonable myself, trying to force a solution, force communication, force everything. So here is a general principle: when it suffers, let it suffer. My husband is well loved by family on both sides. He was in the nursing home for 18 months and somehow survived. Your children grow up damaged and move away. I just want to have enough money to go away.